Self-Acceptance is a crucial part in one’s ability to live a healthy and happy life. Self-Acceptance is being satisfied with one’s self despite any perceived “weaknesses” and irregardless of past behaviors and choices. So it is no mystery that a child who struggles with bulimia certainly does not have a healthy sense of self. What bulimics tend to do is twist beliefs and behaviors into highly subjective and negative self-rejection.
As parents what steps can be taken to help your child accept him or her self? I believe it starts with taking inventory of yourself and making sure you are being the best “you” you can be. Then you can model positive self-acceptance for your child - children are constantly observing how you act and what you say so you need to be careful what you are projecting.
1- Be conscious of what you say or do:
Do you ever say things like:
It is a very lonely life when we don’t like ourselves. By not having a strong sense we are not living our best life and for bulimics this greatly plays into binge/purge cycle. So for parents it is important to take inventory of how you value yourself, what behaviors you exhibit that maybe counterproductive or even toxic and may be directly, if unwittingly, influencing your child who is struggling with bulimia and self-worth.
After a 25 yr battle with Bulimia I am recovered and dedicated to helping others also win their battles with Bulimia or other Eating Disorders. I have chronicled my struggle, as well as strategies for recovering, in two books and encourage anyone who is struggling to reach out to me confidentially